Parents who have no limits on their children, and let them in their lives at any time they choose to. Parents like these do not accept that their children have become adults and are free to live their lives, without getting involved.
Children with these parents typically are forced to cope to their parent’s obsessions and often get pulled to play along the longest time possible. It’s among the most difficult issues to face when you consider how you’re dealing with the family members who raised your and showed you unconditional love throughout your entire life.
However, it’s essential to create boundaries for parents who are trying to become to involved with your private life, particularly when it affects your relationship with your spouse. If your parent who is obsessive has a problem with your relationship partner; they’ll try to undermine your relationship in whatever way they could.
A Redditor who goes by the username u/Own-Opportunity-9646 made a post on the r/AmItheAhole subReddit where he explained how he refused to give an “emergency key” to his mother, and she had a quite dramatic reaction to his decision. The Reddit community had a lot of interesting reactions to u/Own-Opportunity-9646’s situation, scroll down to check out the full Reddit post!
Here’s the original post by Reddit user u/Own-Opportunity-9646:
OP’s mom always had a problem with his girlfriend.
OP modified the post to include an “Edit” to update us about how he is handling the situation.
OP then added a second update with more context about the situation.
Here’s how the Reddit community reacted to u/Own-Opportunity-9646’s post:
Whatever OP does, it will always backfire on his girlfriend.
OP has to pick a side and let his mom know about his choice.
OP’s mom should never get a key; otherwise, things will get way worse.
Someone else will have to deal with their emergencies. Or she could always break the door down just to be sure.
OP needs to take this very seriously.
The mother’s sole intention is probably to snoop around.
OP’s mom needs to realize that her son is no longer a child.
Props to OP for picking his GF’s side and not giving in.
OP made another post more than a month later to update us about his situation:
OP’s mom wanted to invite him and his girlfriend so she could apologize.
The dinner was going pretty well until things took a weird turn.
OP added two edits at the end to provide more context about the situation.
Here’s how the Reddit community reacted to u/Own-Opportunity-9646’s update:
OP’s mom is going to lose her son if she continues with this behavior.
OP’s dad is hurting himself by siding with his mom.
Kudos to OP for doing the right thing.
OP was right in taking the side of his partner and allowing himself to be influenced by the mind games played by his mother. He should be able to live his life and not have to endure the constant nagging from his mother or her anger at his relationship with his mother.
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