AITA for being upset my wife announced today (Mother's Day) she's going to be a surrogate?

In this situation, the husband is understandably upset after his wife reveals that she applied and was approved to be a surrogate mother without consulting him. The couple has been married for two years, together for seven, and already has two children of their own. They’ve also been actively trying for a third child. The husband’s agitation stems from the fact that this decision impacts their entire family, including their relationship, their existing children, and their future plans.

The husband expresses his concerns to his wife, emphasizing the potential challenges associated with surrogacy, such as its impact on her body, mental and emotional health, as well as the strain it could put on their family dynamics. He acknowledges the selflessness of surrogacy in helping another family but questions whether it’s worth jeopardizing their own family’s well-being.

One key point of contention for the husband is the fact that he would be unable to provide the same level of support and care to his wife during pregnancy, especially if the child isn’t biologically his. Additionally, he highlights that financial compensation for surrogacy isn’t necessary for them, as they are already financially secure due to his provision for the family.

Despite his concerns and frustration, the husband isn’t resorting to yelling or screaming. Instead, he seeks validation and understanding from Reddit, questioning whether he’s in the wrong for feeling upset about his wife’s unilateral decision.

The timing of the revelation, on Mother’s Day, adds an ironic layer of complexity to the situation. Despite his feelings, the husband still plans to make an effort to celebrate Mother’s Day with his wife and children, demonstrating his commitment to their family despite the challenges they’re facing.

Let’s start the story.