AITA for Saying “Bruh..” When My Sister Announced Her 7th Pregnancy at Dinner?

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This emotional rollercoaster comes from a 16-year-old girl who’s had enough. Her older half-sister, Laury, has just announced yet another pregnancy — her seventh child, to be exact — and OP (Original Poster) finally snapped. Her reaction? A quiet but telling “bruh…” at the dinner table. What followed was a family explosion of tears, guilt, and accusations.

What makes this story stand out is not just the outrageous number of children or the dependency on their mother, but how a teenage girl who already feels like an outsider (as an “affair baby”) finds herself acting more like a responsible adult than her older sibling. Is it really bratty to call out the truth when everyone else is enabling chaos? Or is this teen simply saying what everyone else is too afraid to admit?

Let’s dive into the situation — how autism, caregiver burnout, financial boundaries, and generational dysfunction all collide in one very uncomfortable dinner.

Many of us might celebrate hearing the news that our family is expanding

Two sisters sitting closely on a couch, one wearing a maroon hoodie and the other a light gray sweater, smiling gently. — Image credits: Craig Adderley (not the actual photo)

But after finding out that her sister has another child on the way, this teen couldn’t keep her thoughts to herself

Okay, real talk — if your older sister has six kids already and casually drops that she’s pregnant with number seven like it’s a surprise party, someone’s gotta say something. And honestly, “bruh…” might’ve been the most respectful reaction under the circumstances.

This isn’t about being rude. It’s about emotional overload, caregiver fatigue, and a family that’s been walking on eggshells for way too long. So let’s unpack this with real-life examples, some psychology, and yeah — a little tough love.

🍼 Too Many Kids, Not Enough Support

Let’s do the math first:

7 kids
At least 3 unplanned
4 reportedly “planned” even though there’s no stable income or support system

That’s not “starting a family” — that’s emotionally and financially reckless. And it’s not uncommon.

According to the CDC, nearly 45% of all pregnancies in the U.S. are unplanned. But what matters more is how families handle those pregnancies. In this case, Laury isn’t handling anything — her mom (OP’s mom) quit her job just to care for all the grandkids, and OP, a teenager, is forced to act like a co-parent.

This is parentification, a term used in psychology when a child is expected to take on adult roles. It’s a big deal and has long-term consequences:

Anxiety
Burnout
Delayed personal development
Even PTSD in extreme cases

So no, OP isn’t being a “brat” — she’s a burned-out kid trying to hold a family together while the adults around her are acting like toddlers.

🧠 Autism and Emotional Expression

OP also mentioned she’s autistic, which is super important to include here. People on the spectrum sometimes express frustration or disbelief differently — like blurting things out, laughing at awkward moments, or having what others see as “blunt” reactions.

Saying “bruh” wasn’t malicious — it was probably a spontaneous, overwhelmed moment. It’s basically the equivalent of an eye-roll but with sound.

Image credits: Askar Abayev (not the actual photo)

And guess what? That’s okay. Autism doesn’t make someone rude or cruel. It just means their brain processes social cues differently. Instead of shaming OP for her reaction, maybe the adults in the room should have asked, “What made you feel that way?”

💸 Financial Enabling: When Parents Won’t Say No

This one hits hard. OP’s mom literally gave up her career to care for Laury’s growing batch of children. That might seem like “support” on the surface, but it’s actually financial codependency. Laury’s gotten so used to getting bailed out, she keeps planning kids like it’s a group project — but with zero accountability.

This pattern is textbook enabling behavior. It teaches the adult child that:

They don’t have to budget
Boundaries don’t matter
Someone will always fix their mess

According to experts like Dr. Henry Cloud (Boundaries), enabling prevents growth. It doesn’t help people rise — it lets them sink deeper.

👶 Who’s Really the Caregiver Here?

Let’s be honest — Laury’s not the mom here. OP’s mom is doing the heavy lifting. And so is OP herself.

Think about that: a 16-year-old changing diapers, wrangling twins, and sacrificing her own peace and downtime to keep Laury’s kids from hurting each other. That’s not being a brat. That’s being a damn superhero in sneakers.

And the moment OP finally calls out the dysfunction, everyone cries — except nobody cries for her.

Not cool.

🧓 Laury’s Dad and the “Great Mother” Delusion

Laury’s dad jumping in to defend her — saying she’s a “great mother” — is just icing on the chaos cake.

Let’s define “great mother” real quick:

Provides emotional and physical care ✅
Can support her kids financially or at least tries ✅
Doesn’t rely on a retired grandmother or teenage sibling full-time ❌
Plans responsibly for future children ❌❌❌

Image credits: Liza Summer (not the actual photo)

Laury isn’t a great mother — she’s a repeat crisis creator. And her dad defending her is part of the toxic cycle of protecting the loudest or most fragile person instead of supporting the ones actually doing the work.