“AITA for not letting my sister see her kids?”

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In a recent discussion about family dynamics and child custody, a 28-year-old woman has been caring for her sister’s three children since 2018. The custody arrangement was prompted by the sister’s neglect and substance abuse issues, which led to the children being placed in the woman’s care. Now, after the sister’s release from prison, she is seeking to reconnect with her children, who have adjusted well to their new lives under their aunt’s guardianship.

The oldest child, a 9-year-old boy, has expressed a clear desire not to see his mother, citing hurt from her previous abandonment. The younger children, who were too young to remember their mother, do not have the same emotional baggage.

Despite professional advice suggesting that the boy’s feelings should be prioritized, the woman faces pressure from her family to facilitate a reunion. They argue that it is important for the children to have a relationship with their biological mother, even though the children’s therapist has recommended that the decision should be based on the boy’s readiness.

Top comments from the discussion largely support the woman’s stance. Many emphasize that listening to the child and following the therapist’s guidance is crucial. They suggest that the sister should demonstrate stability and commitment to change before being allowed to reconnect with the children. The overarching consensus is that the children’s well-being should take precedence over the mother’s wishes, ensuring that any potential reunification occurs in a manner that respects the children’s emotional health and readiness.

What do you think? AITA? This is what top commenters had to say:

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