Guy Refuses To Babysit ‘Disabled’ Brother Who’s Just Lazy & Spoiled
Alright, let’s talk about something that hits home for a lot of people—being the functional sibling in a dysfunctional family. You’re the one who gets your act together, raises kids, pays bills, grows as a person. Meanwhile, your “disabled” brother, who hasn’t worked in years and can’t even be bothered to shower, is being passed to you like a family heirloom.
Let’s be clear:
You are not the asshole.
You’re the adult who broke the cycle. And now they wanna pull you back in.
1. Let’s Talk About What “Disabled” Really Means
Your brother is not developmentally delayed.
He’s not autistic.
He’s not cognitively impaired.
He had seizures. Years ago.
That doesn’t mean he needs a caretaker for life. A real disability that requires full-time care is a different beast. We’re talking about situations where someone can’t function independently even with support. That doesn’t sound like GB.
This guy doesn’t need a sibling to wipe his butt—he needs discipline, boundaries, and structure. The truth is, your brother isn’t “disabled”—he’s just enabled.
High CPC keywords:
- long-term seizure disorder
- adult disability benefits abuse
- assisted living for epilepsy
- seizure disability requirements
- SSI misuse adult siblings
2. Weaponized Incompetence: A Real Family Plague
There’s a term that’s been floating around on TikTok and Reddit: weaponized incompetence. It’s when someone pretends they can’t do something—cooking, cleaning, caring for themselves—so they’ll never be asked again. GB has mastered it.
He “can’t” cook.
He “can’t” clean.
He “forgets” to shower.
He “doesn’t know better” when talking about sex to a 12-year-old?
Come on. This is just lazy and creepy, not disabled. And your mom is covering for him because admitting the truth would make her responsible for raising an entitled man-child.
3. Your Kids Come First. Always. Period.
Your daughter said she feels unsafe around him.
That should be the end of the conversation. Full stop.
When a kid tells you someone makes them uncomfortable, especially a male adult with poor boundaries, you don’t play games with that. You protect your child.
Letting someone like that live in your home would be setting your kids on fire to keep your brother warm. That’s not family. That’s neglect.
More keywords:
- child safety in shared homes
- red flags for grooming behavior
- adult supervision and teenage safety
- unsafe family members around children
- protecting minors from adult predators
4. You’re Not a Caregiver—You’re a Father
Taking care of someone with real medical needs is a full-time job.
You work.
Your wife works.
You have two kids.
Where exactly does caring for a grown man who smells like cat pee and makes wildly inappropriate comments fit into your life?
If GB really needed 24/7 help, he’d be in a licensed facility. That’s what assisted living is for. That’s what disability programs are for. That’s what in-home support services are for.
You didn’t sign up to be a licensed home health aide.