Guy Refuses To Babysit ‘Disabled’ Brother Who’s Just Lazy & Spoiled

5. “But He’s Your Brother” Is Not A Magical Excuse

Families love to pull this one:
“He’s your brother. Blood is thicker than water.”

But you know what’s thicker? Boundaries.
He had his chance to be a brother. He chose to be a burden.

Also, this “blood is everything” argument always seems to get pulled when someone wants you to sacrifice your mental health for someone else’s comfort.

Your mom had her chance to raise him right. She made her choices. She enabled him for 36 years. That’s on her.

Now she wants to make her problem your problem.

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6. You Already Did the Hardest Thing: You Broke the Cycle

You had every excuse to become bitter. To spiral. To let your circumstances define you.

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Instead, you took care of your kid. Alone.
You worked crap shifts.
You made the impossible choice to leave a toxic environment.
You found a new partner.
You built a whole-ass life.

And now your mom is asking you to throw that away—to invite a grown man who smells like sour milk and piss, and makes your daughter feel sick—to live with your family?

She’s not just asking for a favor.
She’s asking you to burn down the house you spent years building.

That’s not love. That’s manipulation.

7. The Real Solution? Assisted Living or Group Homes

What your wife did was exactly what a compassionate adult should do. She looked for facilities that serve epileptic adults. She took action. She handled it with class.

She showed what real care looks like—without sacrificing her own peace or her family’s well-being.

If your mom really cared about GB’s future, she’d be doing the same. Not trying to guilt her working son into babysitting a grown man who can’t wipe a counter.