WIBTA by not telling a guy I’ve been dating for a month that I’m having artificial insemination to be a single mother?

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Prior to the lockdown, a woman had decided to become a single mother by choice. After two years of counseling and thorough planning, she felt prepared to embark on this journey alone, prioritizing her desire to be a mother over finding a partner, especially with her declining fertility. However, just before her scheduled artificial insemination with donor sperm, the pandemic hit, causing the cancellation of treatments. Initially devastated, she eventually accepted the situation and decided to explore dating apps without any serious expectations. She met a man, referred to as G, and over the course of a month, they developed a promising connection, meeting twice and planning a third date. Recently, her clinic contacted her to resume her treatment, which she eagerly agreed to, with her appointment set for the following week.

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Despite her strong desire to become a mother, she now faces a dilemma: whether to inform G of her plan. Given the early stage of their relationship, she worries it might be premature to disclose such significant information. On one hand, delaying the conversation could be seen as deceptive, but on the other, revealing her plans now might jeopardize a potential relationship. A friend advised that a man truly interested in her would accept her even if she becomes pregnant, suggesting more time is needed for G to get to know her. However, she is concerned that surprising him with news of a pregnancy later might cause resentment. While they have briefly discussed a mutual desire for children, they are not yet in a position to consider a family together. She wonders if withholding her plans for now makes her the antagonist in this situation.

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What do you think? AITA if she doesn’t tell him the truth, even this early in the relationship? This is what top commenters had to say about it:

RedRose_Belmont said:

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OP later shared this significant update: