11 Awkward Questions Husbands Wish Their Wives Wouldn’t Ask

If you spend any bit of time on social media, you have probably seen those hilarious videos of the lady asking her man crazy questions. These can range from playful and endearing—“Would you still love me if I were an ant?” It is hilarious fun, harmless, and good for some laughter.

However, not every question is as innocent as that. Some are just plain bizarre or too deep for the occasion, leaving husbands cringing and baffled about how to answer.

Picture this: he is having a lovely day when you just ask him something that brings him or the day down altogether or makes him completely question everything. The worst part? A lot of these questions shouldn’t even have to be asked!

But though communication is essential to any relationship, sometimes you need to learn when to stop asking questions. This article explores 11 Awkward Questions Husbands Wish Their Wives Wouldn’t Ask. Let’s explore these together!

1. “Do You Really Love Me?”

I can relate to this as when I was younger if I argued with someone and adults were telling me off, I thought I must not be loved anymore.

I recall asking my ex if he still loved me after a fight, he said yes.

I appreciated him for putting up with that side of me, but in hindsight, that was too much strain to place on anyone.

While this might sound like I am defending that attitude, we could still pardon my asking whether or not I was loved for a certain reason.

But when you ask that question for no other reason than to be a little bit of a trouble-maker — for entertainment value — you are being unfair to your man.

Sure your husband will say yes, but he would love for you to not ask this of him because this makes him feel cornered and that he is not doing enough for you when yes he is doing enough when performing a few acts of love towards you.

Asking made it seem like he was failing to prove himself to you.

This question comes from a place of insecurity or rough patch in the relationship so I get it.

But a better thing to ask him — rather than asking him directly at those times — is to consider how he loves you in a way that is different than you.

Is he running errands, doing repairs for you, or getting time for you despite his busy schedule?

If the answer is Yasss then he probably loves you.

For love is a loud action, not a word.

However, if according to your love language you need to be loved differently, where does he know, tell him what makes you feel loved.

2. “Do you think I’ve gained weight?”

And as a not thin girl, this is something I grapple with.

I often want to ask him if I still turn him on, if I still fit in a certain size box that he is happy with, and that I am not too big for him.

I say that to say I understand, but this question often feels like a trick question to men — no answer will likely please you.

A friend told me she once asked her husband this, and he replied, “No, you’re beautiful,” and she shot back with, “You’re just saying that!”

The crux of this question is that men can really never win with it, and that is why they hate it.

Unless your husband has been actively giving you major red flags that he does not find you appealing, you must assume he loves you the way you are.

If your man was Mike from Why Did I Get Married?

If he is not, stop making him think he is.

Ask for a feel-good reassurance and focus on what you feel in your body and you work towards feeling healthier or more confident.

3. “Would You Marry Someone Else If I Died?”

Im not so much annoyed with this question as I grind my teeth because why to you need to know?

And, come to think of it, why are you both dying?

Sure, no one escapes the fate of death — some time we will all face it, but why to think about it when you do not have to?

I get that you may want to know, but it is awkward and creepy if he asks repeatedly.

You are essentially requesting him to picture what his life would look like without you in it; I don’t know of a bigger buzz kill than this.

Even in theory, most husbands will balk at this question, which amounts to a kind of treason.

Rather than if I died, he focused on a more near future and how to keep building on the legacy that we now have.

4. “Do You Love Me More Than Your Mum?”

This question sets up an unhealthy rivalry between two of the most significant people in his life.

Comparison aside, a parent is not a spouse, so the love for each is never going to be the same anyway.

What should be greater than the greatness of one love?

But the real question is, does he treats you lovingly and keep the relationship above all else?

And if the answer is yes, then that is all that matters.

5. “How much money do you make exactly?”

One of the most contentious subjects in any relationship is actually money. But even a husband in a loving marriage bristle a bit when asked, “How much do you earn?

Not necessarily that he has anything to hide, but because income can be tied to pride, self-worth, and the need to provide. Asking this question always rubs salt into the wound of husbands who believe that they are not striving “hard enough,” in either society’s definition of “enough” or their own.

It’s always a much better conversation when you can move the conversation from just what figure can be requested to what financial goals could be aligned. Halve your ideas for budgeting together, sparing for arrangements or developing a last-design with one another.

This is an approach that displays partnership, not oversight. Why do we also need to think about the why? Curiosity, worry, jealousy? If you feel attacked, interrogate — why demand to prove that your decisions were justifiable? Remembering your reasons reinforces your communication.

Also, think about how this question may come off with your husband. It could make him feel judged or compared to others and would create friction. Financial transparency is something that is built — and it takes time and trust.

6. “Do you ever miss your ex?”

Mentioning the past may leave a husband feeling uneasy — even if he has no residual feelings for his former partner. That’s not a comfortable subject and he may not want to go there again.

Your husband wants to concentrate on the today time along with the life he has actually made, not somebody coming from his past.

7. Are You Hiding Something From Me?

This interrogative comes across as an accusation, and likely puts your husband on the defensive – even if he has nothing to hide.

Ironically, most of the time it is us that over think things.

So you are thinking your husband is being aloof because something sinister is afoot, and the truth is that the guy is just stressed about work and avoids bringing it up because he does not want to alarm you.

So, don’t ask the wrong questions when your husband doesn’t behave like he usually does – that might cause you to overthink it.

Instead of making judgments, say something like, “You seem distracted; Is something on your mind?

This is a much better question because it prompts a conversation, not suspicion making him feel safe to talk.

8. Are You Ever Going To Cheat On Me?

The issue with this question is that it feels like an accusation whether or not you intend to accuse your partner of something.

I know, you’re maybe asking because of fear or insecurity, but it sounds like an accusation.

I read about this on a podcast somewhere — a woman was discussing asking her husband this during a very low moment and her husband felt extremely offended.

It took time to ease her husband back to his usual self as he felt untrusted for not reason, she said.

If your husband has not given you a reason to doubt him, then you should not have to ask.

If in doubt only make the accusation with evidence – not a feeling – because, trust me, the last thing you want to be is wrong about a thing like this.

9. Comparison With Other Man

And when women compare husbands, its most likely someone else husband — a friend maybe.

But who cares about that; your husband does not want to be measured against anyone – your dad, brother, friend, boss, religious leader – you name it.

Your husband is an individual, he will never be someone else — you should not have married him if you were expecting something different.

This question does not provides him confidence.

If that’s hard for you to comprehend how hard of a hurdle that is this is what you should do, imagine being him.

Now think, if he told you something like that you would feel horrible.

And that’s how he feels, exactly.

We all want to be loved, warts and all.

I did this mistake myself also in past, so I know how to do in better way now.

I once said to a girlfriend of my husband “You know, your husband has a great sense of humor…,” referencing my husband when he was next to me.

Glad he said how that felt rather than kept it in.

It led me to seek remedy, and we discussed the elephant in the room: the type of fun I was no longer having in our relationship.

That was a way better conversation than trying to break him down to someone else.

So, if you need something from your marriage, just say so, nicely please….instead of going down the comparison route.

10. “Do you think I’m a good wife?”

A husband can easily be caught off guard by this query. He will hesitate because he will not know what to answer without feeling that he has to give examples, to prove himself. His wife is no less valuable; it just is that displaying or expressing emotions or appreciation in words in the moment is not as easy for him as displaying it through acts.

Husbands often want to show love and appreciation in little ways. Be it a household fix, a surprise treat with your favorite pastry or quietly standing by during your challenging moments, these actions are literally louder than words. They are not always the most vocal with their feelings, but their actions often speak volumes in terms of the effort and love they give.

But if you need some reassurance, think about those small practical things he does each day. Rather than ask and have him try to answer, tell him how you feel appreciated and loved. This type of open communication helps strengthen the bond and create a space for him to express himself in ways that land for you. This will prevent him from being under scrutiny and pushes him to indulge in a bit of understanding as well.

11. “Do you think she’s prettier than me?”

And let me say this: The men you marry are going to see sexually seductive women more attractive than you.

This does not mean he loves you less; this just means that he is not a blind man without blood running in his veins.

Coming to terms with that will serve you extremely well.

And besides, you probably like other men too, so it’s you who will end up failing at something you expect of him.

You should focus on the fact that he stays devoted to you and dedicates himself to you.

That being said, it would be nothing short of trouble to even ask him this question; you’d make his day hell free and yours even more so if you keep bringing it up.

That could come across as accusatory making him feel like you are questioning his loyalty.

If he is indeed faithful to you, this could especially hurt him and make him feel like you don’t trust him.