Woman's husband changes after they get married; 'I'm NOT your dead ex wife!' AITA? UPDATED

A woman, 25, married her husband, 29, earlier this year after four years of knowing each other. When they first met, he shared that he was a widower; his first wife had died unexpectedly at 31, two years prior. Initially, their marriage was smooth, but two months in, her husband’s behavior began to change. He became quieter and more withdrawn, attributing his distress to finding and accidentally discarding some of his late wife’s belongings while cleaning.

Despite her efforts to cheer him up, his mood only improved temporarily. One night, during a minor argument, he accidentally called her by his late wife’s name. Shocked and upset, he apologized repeatedly, but the incident left him visibly distressed and sleepless. The next day, when she tried to discuss it, he became irritable and left to visit his brother, only returning late at night to apologize again.

A few weeks later, during an intimate moment, he called her by his late wife’s name again. This incident hurt her deeply, and she chose to sleep in the guest room. The next morning, he apologized once more, and she suggested he seek professional help. He agreed initially but did not attend the appointment they scheduled. Since then, their interactions have become minimal and strained, leaving her feeling increasingly isolated and unsure of his love.

Recently, she discovered she is pregnant. While this news brings her joy because she has always wanted to be a mother, it also fills her with sadness and anxiety. She is unsure if her husband, the father of her child, still loves her, given the emotional distance that has grown between them since the incidents involving his late wife’s name. She finds herself in a difficult situation, wanting to support her husband through his unresolved grief while also needing to address her own feelings and the future of their growing family.

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