"AITA for telling my fiancee that I love her, but she can't expect my mom to prioritize her?"

In the midst of planning their August 2024 wedding, tensions have arisen between a Reddit user’s fiancee, Janie, and his mother. The user, identified as having a long engagement to save money, found themselves caught between Janie’s expectations and their mother’s life events. The user’s mother, a professional wedding planner, had recently set her own wedding date for May 2024, just over two months before their wedding.

Janie expressed surprise and discomfort at the proximity of the two weddings, feeling that a parent getting married so close to their child’s wedding might detract attention from the latter. She also believed her own parents would not have considered a similar timing. The situation escalated when Janie made a joke at a family gathering about not taking the user’s mother along for dress fittings, which led to tension and a subsequent confrontation between Janie and the user’s mother.

Following the incident, the user attempted to mediate, but in doing so, may have inadvertently exacerbated the situation. While expressing love for Janie, the user candidly told her that she couldn’t expect his mother to prioritize their wedding over her own upcoming nuptials. This comment left Janie visibly upset and unwilling to discuss the matter further.

Reflecting on the interaction, the user now questions whether their response was insensitive, considering Janie’s feelings about the situation. The dynamic between Janie and the user’s mother, compounded by differing expectations and emotional sensitivities surrounding wedding planning, has added strain to what should be a joyous time for the couple.

As they navigate these challenges, the user seeks clarity on their role in mediating between Janie and their mother, hoping to find a resolution that respects everyone’s feelings and perspectives as they move forward with their respective wedding plans.

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