"AITAH for refusing to help sister after she didn't come to wedding?"

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In an ongoing discussion about family support and unresolved grievances, a woman is struggling with whether to assist her sister during a challenging time. The sister, who was supposed to be the maid of honor at the woman’s wedding, did not show up and failed to communicate her absence in advance. The sister later explained that she experienced a panic attack, but the lack of notification and the impact on the wedding left the bride feeling deeply hurt.

Now, with the sister pregnant and in need of help for her baby shower, the bride is conflicted. She wants to support her sister and the future niece or nephew but is finding it difficult to overlook the past incident without an apology or acknowledgment of her feelings. Some family members are questioning why the bride is expected to handle the situation alone, especially when others in the family could also offer support.

Comments have pointed out that if the sister has a history of social anxiety and panic attacks, it might explain her past behavior but does not necessarily excuse it. There are also questions about whether the sister had previously disclosed her struggles or sought professional help. The bride is trying to balance her desire to be supportive with the need to set boundaries to protect her own emotional well-being.

Overall, the situation underscores the complexity of managing family expectations and personal boundaries, especially when past issues are unresolved and communication has been lacking.

AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP was NTA

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