My sister wants me to pay for her wedding but doesn't want me to be there.

In this complicated family situation, the conflict revolves around a wedding and a recently ended relationship. The original poster (OP) has always had a close relationship with his sister, Emily, until a recent breakup with his ex-partner, Chris. The breakup occurred because Chris chose to pursue a career opportunity overseas, and OP was not willing to relocate. Despite the breakup being relatively recent, Emily decided to invite Chris to her wedding, not just as a guest but as a groomsman. To accommodate this decision, she uninvited OP, citing concerns about potential drama if both attended.

OP had intended to contribute significantly to Emily’s wedding, covering half of the expenses as a gift. This contribution was especially important given their modest background and Emily’s dream of having a grand wedding. However, feeling deeply hurt and betrayed by Emily’s decision to prioritize Chris over him, OP informed Emily that he would no longer be financially supporting the wedding. This led to a heated argument, with Emily accusing OP of being petty and selfish, and of using his financial support as an emotional manipulation tool.

The family’s reaction has been mixed. Some family members believe OP is justified in his feelings and actions, while others think he is overreacting and letting his recent breakup negatively impact his sister’s happiness. This divide has left OP questioning whether his response was appropriate or if he is indeed being unreasonable in this emotionally charged situation.

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