She Says She’s Single Because Men Fear Women Who Are Both Pretty and Intelligent
A woman has gone viral after admitting she’s “very single” — and she thinks it’s because guys get scared of her beauty and brains.
Ashley, who goes by @ashbabank on TikTok, dropped the truth in a now-viral video. She said people are always shocked when they find out she doesn’t have a boyfriend. And honestly, same.
She revealed that no man is even trying to pursue her right now. Not in real life, not on dating apps, nowhere. She also hinted she hasn’t been intimate with anyone for about eight months, which had TikTok blowing up with comments.
Ashley works as a fashion stylist in Texas, and her career plus looks usually make people assume she’s living her best dating life. But according to her, it’s the exact opposite.
She believes guys see her as too intimidating — a mix of pretty face, smart mind, and independence that many men just don’t know how to handle.
This has sparked conversations online about modern dating struggles, why so many attractive and successful women stay single, and how male insecurity still plays a big role in relationships today.
Even with her stunning looks, Ashley admits that being “so pretty” might actually be the reason she’s struggling to find real love. She said, “You’ve got a very terrifying woman on your hands… a very not easy woman.”
According to her, it all comes down to her success, confidence, and natural beauty — which she believes most men can’t handle.
Ashley didn’t hold back. She added, “Men don’t like me. Men are very, very terrified of me.”
And while she knows some guys are drawn to her, she says they’re usually the wrong ones — either already taken, emotionally unavailable, or as she put it, “ugo weirdos.”
In her words, the problem is deeper than just looks. Ashley explained, “At the end of the day, I’m merely just a fantasy. I am not a real human because of the pretty and scary.”
Her story highlights a bigger issue in modern dating and relationships — where male insecurity and fear of confident women often keep strong, attractive women single. Many viewers in the comments even admitted they’ve faced the same struggles on dating apps and in real life, proving Ashley isn’t alone in this.
Ashley summed it up perfectly when she said, “So yes, I’m alone. I’m very, very, very, very single.”
In the caption of her viral TikTok, she added: “Lonely life when you know your worth.”
And honestly, that line hit home for a lot of people. Because Ashley might be single right now, but she’s far from the only woman who feels like beauty, intelligence, and success actually make dating harder.
In today’s world of modern relationships and online dating, so many confident women say the same thing — men either get intimidated, ghost, or can’t handle someone who knows her value. It’s a reminder that sometimes being “too much” for the wrong people just means you’re the perfect match for someone who actually gets it.
Ashley’s TikTok clearly struck a nerve because the comments section blew up with people sharing their own dating experiences.
One viewer wrote: “Convinced singles are the enlightened ones. We are the main characters living life on our own terms.”
Another admitted: “Same… been told I’m intimidating my whole life. Men don’t even approach me because they think I have too many options.”
A third chimed in with some real talk: “Yup. They idealize you, then later resent everything they once adored because you trigger their insecurities. Still single, but happy.”
Others kept it short and powerful. “You said this perfectly,” one person commented. Another added: “YUP terrified. So many guys tell me they’re intimidated by me.”
And of course, TikTok humor never fails. Someone joked: “Me core. Once they find out I’m a real human with feelings… it’s all over.”
The thread was packed with comments like “Facts,” showing just how many people relate to the struggle of being seen as too intimidating, too attractive, or too successful in today’s modern dating scene.